What does 'Unconditional support' mean? When you live in a world wherein the support you get depends on the money you have, it's hard to imagine experiencing 'unconditional support'. From school to the job we end up doing to even our relationships with other people, the support we receive (and give!) is conditional. It is simply the mindset we've grown into within our culture. You must "earn your keep" and "prove your worth" because "nothing in life is free".
This is the way our 'system', as our society's infrastructure and our interpersonal relationships, is set up. It's a physical manifestation of our internal reality. Within our own mind we do not support ourselves (or others) unconditionally. We are quick to judge when it comes to mistakes, flaws or shortcomings and rather than accepting ourselves without reserve, we compare ourselves and then create a competition out of who gets to be worthy of affection, attention, respect and regard. It is simply 'how we're wired'.
Although just because we're wired that way doesn't mean it's what's best for us. This way of thinking is in fact a programming of self-suppression. How could we be truly ourselves when our very way of measuring our worth and value is based on the belief that it's something we have to prove? As if we're not already valuable and worthy from the get to. How can we possibly give ourselves the space and time to relax and just be who we are when we are pressured to prove that we are worthy of support? If support is not unconditionally given, then our expression will always be subject to comparison and competition as we strive to prove our worth. Without unconditional support, real self-expression is impossible.
In the next blog we'll be having a look at how we can start giving ourselves unconditional support and therein start nurturing and opening up our self-expression. Stay tuned!